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What the heck is “counter intention?”  I just heard Dr. Joe Vitale being interviewed by Mark Joyner on one of the “5 missing secrets” not revealed in the movie, The Secret, and this really caught my attention.  People interested in the Law of Attraction, or even in just setting meaningful goals to improve their lives usually start out by setting an intention.  We consciously decide what is it we’d like to do, be or have, and then look for results.

We’ve all been through this process, but why is it that we so often fall far short of what we intended?  We may have visualized our success, felt ourselves living the desired outcome, taken some of the needed actions and so on, but there is something we can easily miss, and it’s the key to actually arriving at the goal, whether that’s better health, relationships, or financial success.  It’s the little thing Joe is calling “counter intention.”

Counter Intention is a belief or thought pattern we hold which is in direct opposition to our stated conscious intention.  Where does it live?  It lives buried in our unconscious mind, so we are not even aware of it!  We get hints that it is there when we tune in to those little voices in our heads whose message is discouraging - it says things like “you may want to have a flat stomach, but I want to eat chocolate cake,” or “you can’t start your own business - it’s too much work and you’ll run out of money…” - you get the idea.

The problem is that these beliefs which live in our non-conscious minds have incredible power.  In fact, the non-conscious mind is the driver behind almost all of what we do, and if we do not clear, release and change these beliefs, these counter intentions will win out over the stated intention.  Feels kind of hopeless, doesn’t it?  But it doesn’t have to be.  Changing it starts with awareness that you have these limiting beliefs.  Once you become aware of a limiting belief, the next step is to find an effective way to dissolve it and release it.

There are many effective ways to do this, but for now, I’ll leave you with one you can use today.  Grab a piece of paper and a pen, and at the top of the page, write your belief, such as, “I can’t be Spiritual and want money.”  In the spirit of being transparent with you, I will say that I can occasionally STILL get tripped up by this one, so I’m sharing tools I have used myself, which have worked powerfully for me.  The key is to begin questioning these beliefs, without making them right or wrong, good or bad, and just having an open and curious attitude while you ask the questions. 

The questions here are inspired by Byron Katie (The Work), The Sedona Method, and Effort Free Life, all of which are fantastic methods for clearing and releaseing beliefs that no longer serve you.  Here are the questions:

1.  Is this belief true?  Can I prove absolutely that it is true?   For the belief above, I came to an answer of No, since I personally know numerous people who are deeply spiritual and incredibly wealthy.  In fact, I can prove this one false for myself.

2.  Who would I be without the thought, ” I can’t be spiritual and want lots of money?”   I would be light-hearted, more free to express Who I Really Am in unlimited ways, whether wealthy or not.  I would be more recpetive and willing to allow the Universe to shower me with gifts, just as I want to shower others with gifts.

3.  Could I let this go?  (Do I want to continue believing something that does not serve me?)   If the answer is Yes, just allow it to leave, and move on to #4.  If the answer is No, then ask : “Would I rather have this belief, or would I rather be free?”  In my case, it felt like a no-brainer - I would rather be FREE!  But either way, be kind to yourself, and just allow whatever the response is to just be there.  Be curious about it, and don’t push - often a new insight will come, and after a break, come back to the questions again.

4. Would I let his go?  When?  In my case, with this belief, I said, “Now!”  I usually feel a sense of relief and energy being released.  I feel lighter and happier, almost instantly.  If you do have resistance, just take your time, possibly let it rest for a while, and come back to it in a few hours, or on another day.

5.  Choose a new belief to take its place - something that will support your highest good - your heart’s desires and your greater purpose.  In my case, the new belief is “Money is a tool given by God which helps me serve more people and have more fun, which  allows me to share even more.”

This is what I love to do the most - help people to release whatever is causing them to be their own worst enemies.  My goal is to help people end self-sabotage forever, so they can deliver their gifts to the world and enjoy a life of ease, freedom and grace.  If you would like to work with me one on one (by phone), please call or email to set up an appointment - i want you to have what you really want!  kgrace@energyexpress.com  612-824-7797   

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Helping others is a known way to move out of stress, worry and even depression.  Reaching out, even if you’re not in the greatest shape yourself can be the best thing you do for yourself.  Here’s a great twist on this idea - an amazing story of people helping a whale in trouble. 

Before you start reading it, notice your state of mind right now.   When you’re finished reading it, you’re likely to notice you’ve forgotten your own problems, at least for a few minutes.  You may find yourself smiling, and relaxing your shoulders for the first time today.  For myself, doing something good for someone else (or even for an animal friend) has almost magical healing powers.  I forget about whatever was bothering me;  I am in the present moment, just trying to be of service, and it feels great.

Here’s the story:

A 2005 front page story of the San Francisco Chronicle told the true story of a humpback whale who had become entangled in a spider web of crab traps and lines.  She was weighted down by hundreds of pounds of traps that caused her to struggle to stay afloat. She also had hundreds of yards of line rope wrapped around her body, her tail, her torso, and a line tugging in her mouth.

A fisherman spotted her just east of the Farallon Islands (outside the Golden Gate ) and radioed an environmental group for help.
Within a few hours, the rescue team arrived and determined that she was so bad off, the only way to save her was to dive in and untangle her.  They worked for hours with curved knives and eventually freed her.  When she was free, the divers say she swam in what seemed like joyous circles.

Whale Thank-You

She then came back to each diver, one at a time, and nudged them, pushed them gently around ~ she was thanking them.  Some said it was the most incredibly beautiful experience of their lives.

The guy who cut the rope out of her mouth said her eyes were following him the whole time, and he will never be the same.  May you, and all those you love, be so blessed and fortunate to be surrounded by people who will help you get untangled from the things that are binding you.  And may you always know the joy of giving and receiving gratitude.  

I love this story!  Happiness and peace  is as close as lending a hand, and even reading  stories like this.  As Tony De Mello said, “No one can be grateful and unhappy at the same time.”  Wishing you much happiness.  Pass it on!

With all the headlines screaming about how bad the economy is, it’s hard NOT to have some fears about losing your job, home or income, or being afraid for family members or friends who might.  These fears and anxieties cause major stress, affecting your health, mood, work and relationships.

So, what can you do about them?  Sometimes your life situation IS tough, and the danger of loss may be quite real.  For others, it’s still a worried “what-if” that hasn’t happened yet.  Here are some things you can do right now to address feelings of fear, worry or anxiety, no matter what your actual situation is.

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