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I just read the first few chapters of Mike Dooley’s new book, Manifesting Change, and just connected some major dots. I have been telling myself that since I haven’t already arrived at my most powerful dream in “real life,” there must be something wrong with me, OR I have limiting beliefs somewhere that prevent me from stepping fully into what I want.

Mike likens manifesting to using a GPS. You put in the exact destination with as much detail as you can, then follow the directions. Along the way, you don’t know through your physical senses that you are getting any closer to your destination, because the territory is unfamiliar and you’ve never been there!

It can look like you’re making no progress at all, and you want to turn around and go home. Then, without warning, you turn the corner, and THERE IT IS!

Here’s where I had an epiphany, much like that semi-annoying, but gets-your-attention GPS voice that says “recalculating” when you stray from the directions ( and try to outsmart the Universe by getting mixed up in the how-it-will-happen stuff).

I realized that it’s been me gumming up the works all along by declaring that I MUST have limiting beliefs that prevent me getting what I want. In fact, I don’t have any limiting beliefs if I say I don’t! It was ME SAYING SO, that has limited me! I already AM on my way to my wildest dreams, and the more clearly I know that, the sooner they get here. All I have to do is be clear about that destination, seeing it as having already arrived, make movements and take some action in the general direction of my desire; the Universe does the rest.  This does not mean sitting on the couch with a picture of Hawaii, waiting for things to happen; it means taking inspired action toward what you want, even if what you try doesn’t seem to be working at first.  It could be that every so-called failure or dead-end, has just been a steping stone to what you want, and without having gone there, you wouldn’t be prepared for the next step.

So, I’m “recalculating,” and telling myself what crazy, joyful fun it will be to relax, and live my life knowing I really will get there, that in fact, I already AM there, just waiting for the physical world to catch up.  I don’t have to control the how, and THAT is a stress I am ready to release.  I am officially resigning as “back-seat driver” to the Universe!

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Yesterday I did something crazy.  I found myself in a state of worry, and the ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts) started marching into my head in massive numbers, and I chose to let them come.

Thoughts like, “how will you ever get all that done?” and “you know you’ll end up putting it off until the last minute; why bother doing it any sooner?” and “if you could have succeeded at that, you WOULD have by now…” and it went from bad to worse from there.

I realized what was happening, and remembered, that I had a choice about thinking those thoughts, and about allowing in the negative feelings they brought with them.  I even knew exactly which energy and attitude shifting tool I could use to easily change what was happening.  (It was a simple breathing and EFT tapping sequence – I’ll post the 2-3 min video here on the blog shortly, so check back).

Here’s the crazy part:  I ignored my own inner wisdom in favor of wallowing in the negativity I was creating.  Why did I do that?  I’ve spent the last 9 years teaching people how NOT to do that, and giving them tools to intentionally choose and focus on what they WANT, and here I was, doing the opposite.  Hmmmm…

That’s when I realized the truth.  Sometimes we CHOOSE to stay in resistance to what would be life-giving and helpful.  Sometimes we CHOOSE to be unhappy.  After having this experience, I remembered why.  Here are my top 3 reasons to choose to be unhappy:

1.  Because there is a payoff for staying in the negative state - Can I escape responsibility this way?  Do I get attention or affection from someone else because I seem to need help?  Does it feel safe or familiar, even if it’s also uncomfortable?

2.  Because we’re afraid of who we will be without that old negative pattern - Am I afraid of my own greatness?  Will my friends and family like the new, capable authentic me? Can I really just drop my old patterns like a hot coal?

3.  Because an old belief about not being worthy or lovable has re-surfaced – Do I really deserve to be happy?  If people really knew me, would they think I’m a fraud?  Don’t I have to DO something or PRODUCE something in order to be loved, worthy or be approved of?

For me, I was having some old regret surface from the past  – a case of the “if only I had…” blues.  The truth is, we can’t change the past; all we have is the present moment, and that’s where we get to choose.

I did eventually choose to shift my energy and move into harmony with “what is,” and here’s the lesson I learned:  It’s not important how long you can stay in a peaceful centered state, it’s about honoring whatever comes up, and being willing to take a look at the message that resistance is sending you.  Once the message is received, it’s much easier to move into the state of being you want.

Maybe choosing to be unhappy once in a while is the key to unlocking your resistance!

Two of the best things I use to get back to my center, and create more harmony in my life are Music and Sound Healing meditations, and immersing myself in the beauty of Nature.

Together, they are an even more powerful combination to shift your energy into what you DO want, and out of what you DON’T want.

On September 24-26th, 2010, I will be holding a weekend retreat on the shores of Lake Superior in Northern Minnesota, at the height of Fall Colors,  in a beautiful Craftsman retreat home with 270 feet of shoreline and a wall of windows overlooking Lake Superior.   It’s called Harmonic Happiness, and you can read more about it here:  Harmonic Happiness Retreat on Lake Superior.

I chose this location because we will be immersed in Nature, while we also experience the sounds of Tibetan singing bowls, tuning forks, crystals, drums, and voice.  When you add a clear intention to a beautiful sound, and you add the element of great natural beauty, it has the power to transform and heal.

I’ve created a 6.5 minute guided meditation with music that I’d like you to have, which gives you a taste of using powerful, high vibration words with music to step into a state of being you want, while letting go of anything that blocks you from more harmony and happiness.

To receive it, just enter your name and email in the box at the top of this page, and it will arrive in your in-box as soon as you confirm your email sign-up.  If you are already on the list for this blog, you will be receiving this new meditation via email very shortly.

Once you have heard it, I’d love to hear your thoughts about it, so please post a comment, or drop me an email.